12 Ways To Win Your Husband’s Love
My dear fellow wife, your husband doesn’t only need his belly filled with your delicious cooking, nor does he only want your loyalty in staying married to him for the kids’ sake. He really doesn’t need your charity as much as you think, so if you’re only offering the above options, that might be the reason you’re not getting what you want from him.
I know the feminists and the man-haters will gasp at the audacity and mock these tips as old-fashioned, so it’s a good thing we should only care about pleasing Allah SWT and following the example of our Prophet’s PBUH on how to behave as a wife.
I always tell ladies who sneer and claim it’s oppressive to see to our husbands, “Go ahead and watch where that gets you, because honey attracts more flies than vinegar.” So if you’re ready to reap positive results and improve your relationship, read further.
10 Tips That’s Guaranteed To Win Your Husband Over
Talk him up in front the kids. He is their hero after all. He's not perfect for sure, but neither are you or anyone else.
Be faithful and guard his home and his trust. His words and behavior are not the latest news for family and friends. He's your amanah and you are his.
Appreciate his efforts and thank him for what he does. If you count every thing he does, you'll see how many things add up which you take for granted.
Treat him like an intelligent adult. So what if you don't agree with how he acts or what he says? Let him be him and you be you, stay in your lane!
Ensure he has what he needs to be productive. If you're too tired to see to your man, then let go of some things on your plate. Put your husband first and see him adore you even more.
Listen to him and hear his words with both ears. Adhere his advice because it's usually better than your friends, and listen to his thoughts as that’s what makes him tick.
Allow him to lead. Allah put him in charge of the family for a reason. Let's follow our fitra and squash the feminist’s nonsense that we are exactly the same (equal does not mean the same).
Make time for him. He's not one of the kids. Putting him last on your list is a common mistake. He needs your attention even more than the kids, he won't tell you, so just be smart and know it.
Call him by strong names because he's your man not your cuddly teddy bear you had as a kid. He’ll be what you call him, so choose his names wisely.
Be respectful to him. Do you need love? Well he needs respect. It's not a choice, it's his right, and if you’re failing in this, don't wonder why he’s losing interest.
Be respectful.
Be respectful.
It’s not a typo that I mention respect three times. It’s the most important tip. Without it, no matter what you do, it won’t matter one bit to him.
To a man, respect from his wife is like oxygen. Without it, his love for you will slowly die.
I did not know many of these tips when I got married, and it caused lots of issues and problems in my marriage. Alhumdulillah, my eyes were opened as I learned more about the male psyche and my role as a wife in Islam.
That’s why I offer Wife Coaching especially to help women find contentment in their marriages. You can book a free discovery call with me to find out how my coaching for wives can work in your favor and see if it’s right for you.
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Salam, I’m Zakeeya!
I believe being a wife, a mother, and making our homes a sanctuary for our families brings us tremendous blessings, fulfillment, and improves society. Since 2011, I've been committed to helping Muslimas find tranquility in their roles, take better care of themselves, and attain contentment within. Our journey is not an easy one, but I pray the resources and mentoring I offer, will assist in navigating you through your everyday challenges with mindfulness and gratitude, inshallah. Join me as I share wifehood, motherhood, homemaking, and lifestyle solutions that make life more fulfilling for you as a woman! READ MORE
